Trying to Conceive? Let's Talk About Comfort, Positioning & Intimacy
When Intimacy Starts Feeling Like Another Thing on the Calendar
Trying to conceive can be such an exciting chapter for a couple. But let’s be honest, it can also change the way intimacy feels.
Suddenly, there are calendars involved. Ovulation tracking. Appointments. Timing. Fertile windows. And a whole lot of wondering whether you’re doing everything “right.”
Something that used to happen naturally can start feeling surprisingly scheduled.
So when someone asks me whether a positioning product like the Wedge can help them conceive, I like to reframe the question a little.
A Wedge isn’t a fertility device, and there’s no evidence that using one will increase your chances of pregnancy.
But could it make the intimacy you’re already having more comfortable, supported, and enjoyable?
That’s a conversation worth having.
Let’s Talk About Elevating the Hips
This is probably one of the first things people think about when they see the shape of a positioning Wedge.
The angled design gently raises and supports the hips. That can make certain positions feel more comfortable and help someone maintain an elevated position without physically holding themselves there.
But let’s clear up a common fertility myth while we’re here.
Research has not established that elevating the hips after intercourse significantly improves pregnancy rates. So if you’re trying to conceive, there’s no reason to feel like you have to stay propped up afterward because you’re worried that getting comfortable or moving around will hurt your chances.
The benefit of the Wedge isn’t that it puts your body into a magical conception angle.
The benefit is support.
Instead of stacking regular pillows that compress, slide around, or need constant adjusting, a positioning Wedge is designed to provide a more stable surface underneath the body.
And when you’re more comfortable, it’s a whole lot easier to focus on the person you’re with instead of the pillow that’s slowly disappearing underneath you.
When Timed Intimacy Starts Feeling Like Work
This is something I don’t think we talk about enough.
When couples are tracking ovulation or following recommendations around a fertile window, intimacy can start feeling less spontaneous and more like another appointment.
You know you “should” have sex tonight.
You know why you’re doing it.
You may even be watching the clock or thinking about whether your timing is right.
That’s a lot of pressure to bring into the bedroom, especially when you’re already balancing work, family, house stuff, and everyday life.
Positioning support obviously can’t remove the emotional side of trying to conceive, but it can remove some of the physical work.
A Wedge can support the hips and help maintain certain positions without one partner having to hold their body at an uncomfortable angle or rely on a pile of ordinary pillows.
Sometimes making the physical part a little easier gives you more room to focus on pleasure, connection, and each other.
And those things still matter, even when there’s a bigger goal in mind.
What About Deeper Penetration?
This is another question that comes up when couples are trying to conceive.
Does deeper penetration improve the chances of pregnancy?
There isn’t conclusive evidence that deeper penetration itself increases fertility or makes someone more likely to become pregnant.
So again, the goal of using a positioning product shouldn’t be trying to find the one “perfect” position for conception.
Think about positioning as a way to improve comfort instead.
The ergonomic shape of the Wedge can support different positions and help couples experiment with angles that feel good for their bodies. Some people may prefer more elevation. Others may discover that a smaller change in angle feels better.
There doesn’t have to be one right way.
Wedge / Positioning Collection
The best position is the one that feels comfortable for the people actually in it.
Comfort Deserves a Place in the TTC Conversation
Trying to conceive can bring a surprising amount of pressure into intimacy.
There’s the scheduling, the anticipation, the hope, and sometimes the disappointment that comes with each cycle. When so much attention is focused on the outcome, it’s easy for comfort and pleasure to quietly move to the bottom of the priority list.
But intimacy doesn’t have to become purely functional just because you’re trying to conceive.
Reducing physical strain is one small way to make the experience feel easier.
If dryness or friction has started making things feel more stressful than supportive, Conceptria is one small way to add a little comfort to the mix. It’s a silky, gentle, water-based, fertility-friendly lubricant that is pH-balanced and low osmolality to work with the body’s natural fluids, optimized for sperm mobility, FDA cleared, vegan, and made without parabens, glycerin, dyes, synthetic fragrances, sulfates, or gluten. It’s $30, compatible with natural rubber latex and polyisoprene condoms, and not compatible with polyurethane condoms. I like it as a simple, supportive add-on for a season when sex can start to feel like work, without turning intimacy into even more of a project.
Conceptria Fertility-Friendly Lubricant
A supportive Wedge may help reduce some of the effort required to maintain certain positions while giving the body a stable place to rest. That can leave more room to focus on your partner, your own comfort, and the connection that brought you here in the first place.
Because even when intimacy is timed, it can still be intimate.
You Don’t Need a “Perfect” Position
If there’s one thing I’d love couples to take away from this conversation, it’s that you don’t need to turn intimacy into another fertility test you have to pass.
You don’t need the perfect angle.
You don’t need to stay upside down afterward.
And you don’t need to choose positions that are uncomfortable because you’ve heard they might improve your chances of conception.
Your positioning choices can simply be about what feels good.
If a Wedge helps support your hips, wonderful. If another positioning piece works better for your body, that’s okay too. And if you’re perfectly comfortable without any additional support, there’s nothing you’re missing.
The goal isn’t to create a “fertility position.”
It’s to make the intimacy you’re already having feel more comfortable, relaxed, and connected.
Quick Tips to Try
- Choose positions based on comfort rather than fertility myths.
- Use positioning support if holding an angle creates unnecessary strain.
- Talk with your partner about pleasure and connection, not only timing.
- Remember that comfort can change from one day to another.
- Don’t put pressure on yourself to maintain a specific position after intercourse in an attempt to improve your odds.
The Bottom Line
The Wedge isn’t a fertility device, and it hasn’t been shown to increase pregnancy rates.
What it can do is provide comfortable, stable positioning support.
It can elevate and support the hips, reduce some of the physical effort required to maintain certain positions, and give couples more options for finding angles that work for their bodies.
And during a season when so much attention can become focused on calendars, timing, and outcomes, there’s something valuable about making room for comfort and connection too.
Trying to conceive may change the way you think about intimacy for a while.
It doesn’t mean intimacy has to stop feeling like intimacy.
Ready to explore positioning support designed around comfort? Start with the Liberator Wedge, explore the Wedge / Positioning Collection, or add a little extra comfort with Conceptria.
This article is for general educational purposes and is not medical or fertility advice. The Liberator Wedge and other positioning products are not fertility devices and are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent infertility or any other medical condition. Research has not established that sexual position, deeper penetration, or elevating the hips after intercourse significantly increases the likelihood of pregnancy. If you have questions or concerns about fertility or trying to conceive, consider speaking with a qualified healthcare professional.